You Have to Love Yourself First, In Order to Let Someone Love You

The Importance of Loving Yourself

Loving yourself is not as easy as hating yourself, isn't it? 

We hate ourselves more often than we love ourselves, loving ourselves is sometimes not as easy as it is sounds. Indeed, we may face some obstacles when we think about loving ourselves. For example, sometimes we compare ourselves with others. But hey! Do you know the quote that says, "Do not compare yourself to others. Be like the sun and the moon, and shine when it's your time"? It means that even the sun and the moon have their own time to shine. So, start believing that the path of every human being varies.

Ok, so why do you think Self-Love is so Important? 

As far as I’m concerned, self-love is the foundation for helping people stand up for themselves, pursue their dreams, feel proud of what they have achieved, and establish healthy relationships with others. Self-love is a way to love ourselves by accepting all the conditions within us. 

A self-love phase, it involves the self-awareness aspect of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-care. Therefore, it is important for us to always be able to manage self-love well. Also Loving yourself will not only provide stability in life but also have excellent benefits to both mental and physical health. You should realize that if you want to love and be loved by someone, you must love yourself first. 

You can't truly love others if you don't love yourself. After all, how could someone who doesn't love themselves give love to someone else?

There are several signs that show you don't love yourself, including: you judge your weaknesses more easily than your strengths, you are overly negative toward yourself and others, you always feel ungrateful for what you have, and you simply don't care about yourself.

Some of these signs may seem insignificant, don't they? But in reality, these 'habits' can greatly affect your happiness and self-worth.

To stop the habits that make us hate ourselves, we need to start by changing how we see ourselves. Instead of always focusing on our weaknesses, let's appreciate our strengths and even celebrate our small achievements. As the quote above suggests, everyone has unique talents and abilities, so it's important to stop comparing ourselves to others.

It's also important to think more positively. If you're used to saying negative things to yourself, try to change those words into something more encouraging. For example, instead of saying "I'm not good enough, I'm bad person or bla bla bla" try saying "I'm still learning and I'm growing." The things we say to ourselves can really affect how we feel and what we do.

What's more, don't forget to be grateful for what you have! We often feel unhappy because we focus too much on what we don't have, but there are actually many things we can be grateful for. It could be as simple as being given the chance to breathe, enjoy delicious meals, feel the fresh air, or simply watch the clouds float in the sky. These small joys are precious and worth appreciating. 

Finally, take good care of yourself. Make time for yourself, whether it's getting enough rest, eating healthy food, exercising, or doing things you enjoy. This is a real way of showing love to yourself. By doing this, we not only feel better emotionally, but we also become healthier physically and mentally. 

Well then, ready to give yourself some love?

You must know that excessive self-hatred can make it difficult for us to grow. Because of these lingering negative emotions, you may also find it difficult to establish relationships with other people, be it friends, partners, or coworkers.

In addition, this attitude can also increase a person's risk for self-destructive behavior, so please hopefully we can start to make peace, and love ourselves, isn't it tiring if we always hate ourselves? why should we hate ourselves when Allah SWT has given so many blessings to us as human beings.